For those who have little dating experience both online and offline, using a dating site can be a much easier approach to finding that special someone. Online dating removes the first question that comes with dating which is “Where do I go to meet someone?” Setting up an online profile and putting yourself out there is your first step through the door to that big online singles bar known as internet dating.
Deciding on a Site
With so many online dating sites out there, it’s important to choose the one that will be right for you. Some sites are free and some you pay for. Pay sites may weed out the less serious online daters but you may prefer a free site if you aren’t sure what you’re looking for yet. Every different site will offer their own set of dating tools, e-mail servers, and messaging services, so browsing through a few before signing up for anything will give you the opportunity to get started on a site that suits you best.
Some niche sites cater to specific interests you might share. These sites could be religion specific or focus mainly on those looking to get married. The more popular sites will generally have more members you can browse through, but if you are looking for a specific type of woman, the smaller sites may have a more particular group of members.
Creating Your Profile
Setting up a thorough profile is a must. Leaving everything blank and not including a picture will give the message that you either aren’t interested enough in the dating process to invest some time into your profile or that you’re trying to hide something.
Fill out what you can on your profile, without being painfully long-winded, and post a few recent, well-lit photos of yourself. The women you message will want to have an idea about who you are before writing back, and if you want to receive any messages, you’ll have to give them a reason to initiate contact.
Meeting the Right Woman
Once you’ve chosen a good screen name that suits you and you’ve created a confident yet modest profile for yourself you’ll be ready to start looking for that special someone. Be sure to read her profile before sending her a message and keep your messages short, polite, and personal. Most women can tell when you’ve created a generic message that you send out to every profile you come across so mention something you liked about her profile or ask her some questions about herself.
You may not always get a response back, so give her some time to respond. Sending one more e-mail a week later is alright if you’re particularly taken by someone, but there’s no sense in spamming anyone who isn’t interested. If you still don’t hear back, accept that she isn’t the one for you and try making a connection with someone else.
